Showing posts with label Emperor Frederick III. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Emperor Frederick III. Show all posts

"The Mind Is Its Own Place"


John Milton's wonderful line from ‘Paradise Lost’ : “The mind is its own place and of itself can make a heaven of Hell or a hell of Heaven” came to mind when I read a very interesting comment by ‘Anonymous’ on a previous post. Referring to Kaiser Wilhelm, s/he wrote:

“His parents were a happy marriage, so I don't know why he became such a complicated character. On the other hand, Emperor Karl grew up in a broken home, his father being an unfaithful husband and his mother a very strict and monotonous woman. That clearly shows that it's up to every person to decide what kind of human being she or he wants to become in life.”
I couldn’t agree more with the last sentence of this comment. Recently I was watching a TV drama in which someone, from the outside, had everything going for him but he was deeply unhappy due to his perception of, and emotional response to the events happening with other members of this family, which – inaccurately as it happened – left him feeling somehow unloved. Children see the world revolving around themselves. If parents are unhappy together, children often believe themselves to be the cause of their unhappiness. If, for some valid reason, which the child does not understand, parents leave the child with other people for a while, the child can feel abandoned. Children are so finely tuned that the slightest snub can seem like a disaster, and the tiniest observation can create immense awe and joy. Most of us dull that fine tuning as we grow up – and we are encouraged to do so by adults - in order to dull our extremes of painful or rapturous emotion. Whether we grow up in idyllic domestic circumstances (did anyone grow up in a thoroughly idyllic home where everything was always rosy?) or in very unhappy circumstances, it seems to me we have a choice. We can either become reactors/victims or creative and perceptive beings. How wonderful it would be to maintain a child’s fine-tuning alongside the wisdom that comes with understanding that, while we truly are the centres of our own universe (in that we have choice how to perceive every encounter and situation), everyone else around us is also the centre of his/her universe.

Kaiser Wilhelm, I think, had a reactor/victim mentality and was in such inner turmoil because he knew he needn’t be that way but couldn’t find a means of overcoming his own demons. The fact of his parents’ happy marriage probably added to his woes. His mother was little more than a child when he was born and she had very little say in his upbringing. Being so young and being a stranger in a foreign country and in a Court that was so different to the one in which she was raised, she felt powerless to influence Wilhelm when he was, almost from the moment of his birth, made the property of the Prussian Court, and had his head filled with grandiose notions from Bismarck and from his paternal grandparents. At the same time, because of the deformity of his arm, he was forced to endure countless hours of humiliation and painful treatments in a futile attempt to correct the deformity. A small child, seeing the love his parents had for each other, yet feeling excluded from that love, he always seems to view his deformity as the cause of his mother’s abandonment of him. To make matters worse, his mother was intellectually brilliant, and didn’t really ‘suffer fools gladly’ – after all, her own mother had been very quick to criticise her children so that was the normal pattern for Vicky. Wilhelm must have felt one minute stupid and weak, and the next minute, hearing Bismarck speak of his role as future Kaiser, amazingly powerful. It was a pattern he continued to act out all his life – swinging between victor and victim to such extremes.

At the outbreak of war, for example, his initial response to the Russian mobilisation was that of a victim. The Willy-Nicky telegrams and his own autobiography show him in an attitude of injured innocence – the poor victim of his family’s treachery. Within a week he was making grandiose and extreme announcements about how he would utterly decimate every British soldier who set foot on the Continent, and how every Russian prisoner should be killed without mercy. Who or what was he really railing against? His own sense of confusion and inadequacy.

The saddest part of his story is, I think, that he was intellectually gifted and he was capable of great love but his inner turmoil prevented him from ever finding balance or harmony within himself. The last video footage of his life shows him at Doorn, carving wood, playing with his dogs, behaving as he probably behaved in the happy hours he spent with his mother and family at Bornstedt (the country ‘farm’ his parents bought to create as normal a family life as possible for their children. There, he had played with local children and lived a ‘normal’ life and felt very close to his mother).

The contradictions in his character are fascinating, and are also a family trait. Few people could be as contradictory as Queen Victoria and several of her children and grandchildren...and perhaps the contradictions, magnified by the loftiness of their position, are what make these people so attractive even today. They mirror everyone’s contradictions in a way that is quite beautiful.

There is so much more to write of Wilhelm’s contradictions...

"If You Love Him, Set Him Free" - More of Queen Victoria's Granddaughters

From Berlin, Moretta could only gaze in wonder at the evident happiness of Aunt Beatrice and Cousin Victoria with their Battenberg husbands while happiness with Sandro continued to be denied her. Though her mother urged her not to give up hope, the Kaiser remained intransigent and by 1886, the chances of the Hohenzollerns accepting Sandro into their clan, had reached their nadir.
Undercover agents sent by the Tsar stirred up the Bulgarians against the prince and before the end of the year, after a series of swashbuckling adventures and heroic escapades, he had been ousted from his throne. Eventually, he returned home to Darmstadt so disillusioned and depressed that even when the people begged him to return, he refused, declaring that he would not set foot on Bulgarian soil again.
His fall from power made little difference to lovelorn Moretta, who dramatically claimed that if she could not marry Sandro she would kill herself. Distraught, Vicky pleaded more fervently on her behalf, but her efforts merely strengthened the Prussians’ resolve. Infuriated by her ‘meddling’ Bismarck initiated a whispering campaign to discredit both the Crown Princess and Sandro. The prince, it was said, had contracted syphilis; he was decadent; he was homosexual; the Crown Princess was so eager to promote the match because she wanted the handsome young man for herself. When Vicky continued to put pressure on Fritz, the Kaiser stated that if the wedding ever took place, he would disown both Moretta and her mother. For a further year, the saga dragged on. Moretta languished, Sandro waited, and her mother struggled for a solution, but by spring 1887 Vicky and her daughters faced a more immediate concern.
On Tuesday, 22nd March Fritz’s father, Emperor William I, celebrated his ninetieth birthday with a banquet in Berlin at which Queen Victoria was represented by Bertie and Lenchen. It was decided that the announcement of Henry’s engagement to Cousin Irène of Hesse, would be made during the dinner - an event that the shy Hessian princess anticipated more with trepidation than excitement, as Vicky told the Queen:
“Poor little Irene was looking forward in terror to this ordeal of upwards of ninety Fűrstlichkeiten [aristocrats] to be stared at.”

It was Fritz’s duty to make the announcement and to toast his father but when he came to make the speech, his voice was barely audible. Throughout the winter, he had been troubled by a sore throat and hoarseness, which did not improve as expected with the coming of spring. Assuming that the illness was an after-effect of his recent bout of measles, the Crown Prince initially paid little heed to the symptoms, but as they persisted, he finally accepted his doctors’ advice and agreed to ‘take a cure.’ In April, following the confirmation of his younger daughters, he and Vicky travelled with Moretta, Sophie and Mossy to the fashionable spa town of Ems. Away from the capital, he seemed a little better, but when the family returned to Berlin in May there was no evidence of any great improvement.
Further medical investigations uncovered a series of growths on his larynx, which the doctors attempted to excise in a brutal and painful procedure, carried out without anaesthetic. The Crown Prince patiently bore the ordeal but no sooner were the growths removed than others appeared. At Bismarck’s suggestion, Vicky consulted a renowned British throat specialist, Dr. Morrell Mackenzie, who recommended an immediate biopsy and arranged for a further examination when the Crown Prince visited to England for the Queen’s Golden Jubilee celebrations. arrange
To avoid the smog of London, Vicky and Fritz stayed in the outskirts at Norwood, but even so it was clear to all the guests that Crown Prince was seriously ill. When the jubilee celebrations were over, Mackenzie removed another growth and recommended an extended period of convalescence. Vicky, Fritz and their three younger daughters enjoyed a brief sojourn with the Queen at Balmoral, before travelling to the Austrian Tyrol. As the autumn chill set in, they moved on to the warmer climes of St. Remo in Italy where ‘the gentillezza…of the young princesses…captured all hearts.’
Far from the damp, dust and stresses of Berlin, Fritz appeared to be improving. He was happy in Italy with Vicky and their daughters who, he told a friend, ‘surround us with their loving tenderness, and the Riviera is a delightful climate and does us much good.’ His recuperation seemed so effective that by October Vicky was able to write to the Queen:
“Thank God, our beloved Fritz whom everybody enquires after, is going on so well. I think this will continue.”
Her optimism survived the autumn but in January 1888 larger growths appeared and within a month urgent telegrams from Berlin threatened to put an end to his convalescence. Fritz’s father was desperately ill and it was vital that the heir should return to Germany at once to take up his duties.
It was impossible, Vicky said, for Fritz to go back to the dusty capital before Mackenzie had re-examined him and she immediately summoned the doctor to Italy. This time Mackenzie was forced to admit what Fritz had suspected all along - the tumours were cancerous and nothing could be done.
While Vicky and Fritz struggled to come to terms with the devastating news, rumours ran rife through Berlin. The Crown Prince’s lengthy absence and the reported use of mercury in his treatment led to speculation that he was suffering from syphilis contracted during his visit to Egypt in 1869. The Crown Princess and her ‘English•’ doctors, it was said, were deliberately killing him or alternatively keeping him alive just long enough to secure her position as Empress. Vicky’s determination to maintain a cheerful appearance for Fritz’s sake did nothing to allay the gossip; her smiles merely confirmed to her critics that she cared nothing for her husband and had already taken other lovers.
The German medics, meanwhile, recommended immediate surgery but when Mackenzie warned that Fritz would not survive the operation, the Crown Prince declined further treatment. At the height of the tension, Willy rushed to Italy demanding a full account of the prognosis so that he might report back to the ailing Kaiser. Disgusted by his bombastic manner, Vicky refused him access to his father and he returned to Berlin angry and offended, openly stating that Mackenzie was killing the Crown Prince. To Vicky’s despair, Charlotte and Henry agreed and, likewise, urged their father to ignore the advice of British doctors and opt instead for surgery.
By February 1888, the tumours had grown so large that Fritz had no alternative but to undergo a tracheotomy to enable him to breathe. A month later, on 9th March 1888, a telegram arrived at his villa in Italy informing him that his father had died and he was now Emperor. For thirty years, Vicky had been preparing for this moment. The miseries of life in Prussia had been made bearable only through the dream that one day Fritz would accede to the throne and implement numerous reforms - but the time had come too late. While Fritz wept for his dead father, Willy heartlessly declared that it was impossible for a man who could not speak to rule Germany and suggested the new Kaiser should abdicate in his favour. Hearing of his outburst, a disgusted Queen Victoria angrily dispatched a letter telling Vicky - now Empress Frederick - to ‘send William and his odious ungrateful wife, to travel and find his level.’
The long journey to Berlin in appalling weather exacerbated Fritz’s condition and the weight of his new responsibilities quickly took their toll. On 24th May 1888, he struggled to attend Henry and Irène’s wedding - an event described by Vicky as ‘by far the prettiest wedding we ever had,’ - but the service exhausted him and the guests were only too aware of the laboured whistling of his breath through the tracheotomy tube. Within a month his health deteriorated even more alarmingly.
“He is a perfect skeleton now and his fine thick hair is quite thin.” Vicky wrote desperately to her mother. “His poor throat is such a painful and shocking sight, and I can hardly bear to look at it when it is done up etc: I have to rush away to hide my tears often!”
In April, Queen Victoria, deeply saddened by the news, paid a visit to Charlottenberg to offer what comfort she could to Fritz, Vicky and their daughters, but she knew as well as anyone that there was little hope.
“Death was clearly written in his face,” noted one of the ladies-in-waiting, “and it can only be a matter of a few weeks. The Empress wept terribly at parting with the Queen, they say she sees no one and longs for sympathy, which she has no chance of finding in Germany where every hand is against her, her sorrow must be too terrible!”
Unable to implement the reforms of which he and Vicky had dreamed for so long, Fritz at least had the opportunity to grant one of his wife’s dearest wishes by consenting to the marriage of Moretta and Sandro.
After reigning for only three months, the fifty-six-year-old Emperor Frederick III died at the Friedrichskron Palace, his favourite home in Potsdam, on 15th June 1888. As his widow and daughters sat weeping at the bedside, Willy virtually snatched the crown from his dead father’s hands. Even as Fritz lay dying, Willy had ordered a battalion of guards to surround the Friedrichskron and the moment that Fritz breathed his last, he ordered them to prevent anyone from leaving the building. While the new Kaiser Wilhelm II ransacked his father’s desk in search of incriminating documents, soldiers forbad his mother from even going into the garden to pluck flowers for her dead husband.

Willy’s heartless behaviour at his father’s deathbed marked only the beginning of the trials that Vicky and her younger daughters were to suffer at his hands in the early months of their bereavement. Ignoring his father’s wishes, the new Kaiser ordered an autopsy, after which the unceremonious funeral was carried out in such haste that few foreign royalties were able to attend. Willy immediately demanded that his mother should send him Fritz’s uniforms and effects; and for the Empress Frederick and her daughters worse was to come. They were curtly informed that they must leave the Friedrichskron Palace, which had been the girls’ home all their lives, and, in a deliberate attempt to wipe out his father’s memory, Willy announced the palace was to revert to its original unimaginative name the New Palace. Refusing his mother’s requests for various alternative accommodations, he offered her instead the smallest mansion in Potsdam.
Broken-hearted at her loss, and despairing at her son’s unfilial behaviour, Vicky’s sole comfort came from her younger daughters and from an empathetic mother in England.
“Darling beloved Fritz,” Queen Victoria wrote, “I loved him so dearly. He was so kind to me always…I seem him always before me with those beautiful loving blue eyes.”
No one knew the extent of a widow’s grief better than the Queen, and as usual in a family crisis, her kindness came to the fore. While urging Vicky to ‘struggle on bravely’ for the sake of her ‘three dear girls’, she offered to send a small sum of money to help them to purchase a country house, as well as extending her customary invitation to England. Along with their mother, the three young princesses, grieving, ousted from their home and facing the galling prospect of having to show obeisance to their haughty and self-righteous sister-in-law, leaped at the chance of escape from Berlin and gratefully accepted their grandmother’s invitation.
In mid-November 1888 Moretta, Sophie and Mossy arrived with their mother for a tearful reunion with the Queen. The genuine warmth and concern with which the British people welcomed Vicky - their ‘Princess Royal’ - almost tempted her into accepting Queen Victoria’s offer of making England her permanent home. For three months, she and her daughters remained at Osborne and Windsor with the Queen who was ‘kindness itself’ but by the time they moved on to Sandringham in March, Moretta could only wonder at her grandmother’s evident change of attitude towards the possibility of marriage to the Battenberg prince.
The Queen had always championed Sandro’s cause and his unceremonious ousting from his throne had turned him into ‘a martyr as well as a hero.’ Yet now it seemed to Moretta that her grandmother’s enthusiasm had cooled. It was impossible, the Queen explained, for Moretta to go against the will of her new Emperor and since Willy remained obdurate, she must resign herself to life without her prince. Not until she returned to Berlin, did Moretta discover the true reason for her grandmother’s change of heart.
“I know your one wish was to help him,” she had written to Vicky in May 1888, “and therefore I feel if you and [Moretta] really love him, you ought to set him free and spare his honourable name being assailed as it is now being even by his friends.”
It was more than a question of honour. Liko had already told the Queen that his brother’s passion had waned. Waiting in Darmstadt and losing hope of ever being allowed to marry into the Hohenzollern family, Sandro had become involved with an actress in the Darmstadt theatre to whom he would soon propose.

When a heartbroken Moretta eventually discovered the truth, she rushed back to England for comfort.
“Grandmama took me in her arms and kissed me over and over again,” she wrote on the first anniversary of her father’s death, “We could but cry in silence.”
Sandro Battenberg married his actress and Moretta had no option but to reconsider her future.

Queen Victoria's granddaughters - Continued...

A cool winter wind blew in from the sea as Queen Victoria’s two eldest daughters strolled along the front in Cannes. To all outward appearances, Vicky, the elder and cleverer of the two, had made the better match. Prussia was so much wealthier and more powerful than the impoverished Grand Duchy of Hesse-Darmstadt, and she could not have found a more devoted husband than Fritz, with whom she was still in love after eleven years of marriage. Yet, as she watched the children playing croquet, running on the sand, swishing through rock pools and collecting botanical specimens, the Crown Princess could not help but wonder who had the happier lot.
Short in stature and, by the age of twenty-nine, already developing her mother’s matronly figure, Vicky had always considered her sister far prettier than she was and the sight of Alice’s girls running beside her own clumsy daughter, Charlotte, gave rise to a rueful envy. Although Victoria of Hesse was quite a tomboy with a tendency to talk too much, both she and her younger sister Ella looked so much healthier than their painfully thin Prussian cousin, who suffered continuously from nose and throat complaints and appeared far younger than her nine years.
Only two years previously, Vicky had written hopefully to Queen Victoria that Charlotte ‘is very good looking and much admired’ but seeing her now beside her Hessian cousins, the optimism seemed premature. Confident yet unassuming in their hand-me-down clothes, Alice’s daughters appeared so charming next to the nervous and graceless Charlotte whose hair was so thin it had to be cropped short like a boy’s, and who was such a nail-biter that Vicky had resorted to strapping her hands to her sides and making her wear gloves all day. When Queen Victoria played down the difference remarking that Alice’s third daughter, Irène, was plain, Vicky replied frankly that her own son, Henry, was ‘ugly,’ though conceding that this was not his fault since: ‘he cannot help being so ugly, and he is really not stupid and can be very amusing.’
Still more disappointing for Vicky than her children’s appearance, was their behaviour. With true Hohenzollern pride, her eldest son, ten-year-old Willy, strutted about giving orders and reminding his cousins of the recent Prussian victory over Hesse. Even in his more placid moments he changed his mind so often, abandoning one game to start another, that he soon earned the nickname ‘William the Sudden.’ While his younger sister and brother, Charlotte and Henry, were happy to follow his lead, Alice’s boisterous but impeccably mannered daughters yielded to his whims, perhaps making allowance for his pomposity out of pity for his atrophied left arm. Though every attempt had been made to conceal the deformity - specially designed suits with raised pockets and shortened sleeves - it served as a constant reminder to his mother that she had failed in her first duty to produce a flawless heir.
The trauma of her his birth still haunted the Crown Princess. After thirty-six hours of a tortuous labour, during which the doctors gave up hope of saving either mother or child, the baby was found to be in the breach position and was forcibly removed by forceps. In the process, the nerves in his shoulder were badly damaged and consequently his arm failed to develop. For a boy in Willy’s position as heir to the Prussian throne the deformity was more than a handicap, it was a humiliation. Already Vicky had heard cruel muttering that a ‘one-armed man’ should never be king and she had watched helplessly as he endured various brutal and unsuccessful attempts to correct the abnormality.
“The arm will be a great obstacle to his education,” Vicky had written to her mother, “as what has to be done for it not only takes up so much time but tires him so that he is not fit to learn directly afterwards. He is very backward for his age in consequence; he can neither read nor write nor spell yet…”
Through sheer strength of will he had learned to ride one-handed but even by the age of ten he had difficulty using a knife and fork and the resultant shame left him with a hatred of any sign of weakness and a need to exert his own superiority.
If the trauma of his birth explained Willy’s erratic behaviour, there was no apparent excuse for his equally tempestuous sister. Charlotte’s moods swung from total apathy to sudden tantrums and rages and her sense of her own importance led her to treat her social inferiors with disdain. Queen Victoria, who insisted that all her servants should be treated with respect, had been deeply offended by Charlotte’s refusal to shake hands with her favourite ghillie, John Brown, and wrote a strongly worded letter to Vicky expressing her disapproval. The Crown Princess knew and despaired of her elder children’s arrogance but protested that she was not to blame. Their Hohenzollern grandparents spoiled them terribly and infused them with such Prussian pride that there was little she could do to correct them.
Grey clouds gathered over the sea and the princesses assembled their children to return to the Grand Hotel. Archdeacon Dealtry of Madras had arrived to speak English with the elder Prussian boys and, as Willy and Henry prepared for their lesson, Vicky set up her easel to paint a portrait of the Archdeacon’s daughter, carried in the arms of an Indian servant.
Art was virtually the only one of Vicky’s many talents that had not been stifled since her marriage. Eleven years earlier, she had arrived in Berlin filled with high hopes for the future. Germany at the time comprised a number of independent kingdoms and grand duchies of which Prussia was the most dominant. For years, ideas had been mooted about a confederation of the various states and when Vicky married the liberal-minded Fritz, she believed that together they could realise her father’s vision of a peaceful and unified Germany governed along the lines of the British constitution. It did not take long to discover that few members of the Prussian Court shared her dream.
Fritz’s father, first Regent then King, believed more in an absolute monarchy than a British-style constitution and when he appointed the formidable Otto Von Bismarck as Chancellor, all hopes of a democratic society were dispelled. From the start, it was Bismarck’s intention to create a powerful empire rivalling its European neighbours in military supremacy and prestige. Within five years of Vicky’s wedding, he had annexed the disputed Danish duchies of Schleswig and Holstein before embarking upon a war with Austria, dragging other states - including Alice’s Hesse-Darmstadt - into the conflict.
In spite of the Prussian victory, the war had been even more disastrous for Vicky than it had been for Alice. In her anxiety about Fritz’s impending departure for the front, she gave birth to a premature baby, whom, to her mother’s satisfaction, she named Victoria Moretta.
While Moretta flourished Vicky scarcely had time to recover from the birth when tragedy struck the family. No sooner had Fritz left for battle when his son, two-year-old son, Sigismund, developed a fever. The same age as his cousin, Ella, little ‘Sigi’ had a special place in his mother’s heart as the first of her children to be breast-fed. He seemed such a healthy child, so ‘pretty’ so ‘merry’ and ‘so wonderfully strong, with such a fine colour, always laughing and so lively,’ that his illness was all the more shocking. To make matters worse, most of the Court doctors had left with the army and by the time that meningitis was diagnosed, the child was beyond hope. His death in mid-June plunged the Crown Princess into the depths of despair:
“What I suffer none can know,” she wrote to Queen Victoria, “– few know how I loved! It was my own happy secret – the long cry of agony which rises from the inmost depths of my soul reaches heaven alone.”
With Fritz far away and no one on hand to comfort her, Vicky’s grief took a rather macabre turn. Sealing the room in which Sigi had died, she placed an effigy of a baby in his cot and visited it regularly to the horror and disgust of the Court.
The decisive Prussian triumph at Könnigratz did little to raise Vicky’s spirits. Though she half-heartedly rejoiced in the honours that victory accorded her husband, military success brought no solace when she considered the plight of her sister in Darmstadt. Moreover, she could only watch in despair as Bismarck, claiming much of the credit for the Prussian triumph, urged the king to continue his belligerent ambitions further afield.
In such a militaristic climate, there was little room for a liberal-minded and very English princess, whose insistence on clinging to her native customs and tactless comparisons of Britain and Germany did nothing to endear her to the Court. Like Alice, she had shown initiative and imagination in her philanthropic activities. She had established homes and training schools for the unemployed, and organised schemes to provide them with temporary work. She had sponsored evening classes, arranged educational programmes in health and hygiene, founded schools of nursing, and an institute to train young women in a variety of trades; but her efforts were largely unnoticed. The Press drew attention only to her Englishness and her outspoken opposition to Bismarck until she became so unpopular that many Berliners were happy to believe that outlandish stories that the Chancellor fabricated about her. If she hoped for support from her in-laws, she was quickly disillusioned. As far as Fritz’s father was concerned, women had no business meddling in politics, and a Crown Princess’s sole purpose was to provide the country with heirs.
Unfortunately Vicky did little help her own cause. Like Alice, she was prone to bouts of depression and illness, exacerbated by frequent pregnancies and the stifling of her many talents. Moreover, according to one of her English nieces, there was:
“…a curious trait in her character - she was never really satisfied with the moment itself. When she was in Berlin, everything in England was perfect: when she was in England, everything German was equally perfect.”
Even in Cannes, as Alice wrote to Queen Victoria of the ‘heavenly blue sea,’ and the beauty of the sunsets and countryside, Vicky only complained of the expense of the place and the poverty of its architecture:
“If it were not that dear Alice and I were so happy together…I do not think we either of us would be enthusiastic about this place…the absence of nice buildings makes monotonous.”
Frustrated in her aspirations and increasingly isolated from Berlin society, Vicky had no option but to confine her many talents to the decoration of her home and the upbringing of her family. ‘Every moment she could spare…she spent with us,’ Moretta recalled yet even in the schoolroom her hopes were thwarted. It was frustrating for a woman of Vicky’s intellect to discover that her children were not great scholars. Impulsive Willy was hindered by his arm, Henry was ‘lazy’ and Charlotte was, in her mother’s eyes, ‘backward’ and ‘dull.’
‘Stupidity is not a sin,’ she wrote in exasperation to Queen Victoria, ‘but it renders education a hard and difficult task.’
Brilliant herself, the standards she set for her children were way beyond their ability until Queen Victoria herself felt it necessary to intervene:
“Don’t press poor dear Henry too much; it will not do any good and he will learn none the better for it…more harm than good is done by forcing delicate and backward children.”
If at times the perfectionist Vicky despaired of her elder children, she could be equally effusive in their praise. Henry - in spite of his ‘ugliness’ - was ‘a great darling’; Willy, ‘very intelligent and good-looking’ and yet within the same paragraph she was ever ready to point out their faults with the result that the children were never quite sure where they stood and, beneath much of their bluster, all were intrinsically shy and lacking in self-esteem. Unable to impress their mother, Willy, Charlotte and Henry ran to their grandparents for praise. The Prussian Queen Augusta made no secret of her contempt for the Crown Princess and actively encouraged Willy’s rising hostility towards her. The king, meanwhile, regaled his grandson with tales of past Prussian victories, filling his head with dreams of ruling a mighty Empire surpassing that of his British grandmother. The giant Bismarck, ever willing to flatter the impressionable boy to his face while privately viewing him with scorn, appeared to personify that dream and beside the ‘Iron Chancellor’ the Crown Prince and Princess seemed weak, unpatriotic and unworthy of respect or imitation. Proud of his Hohenzollern ancestry, Willy grew to despise his English blood and Vicky could only take refuge in Fritz’s abiding love and the determination to keep her younger children free from the ‘Prussian influence.’
By the time of Moretta’s birth, Vicky was determined to play a more direct role in her children’s upbringing and the effects were almost immediately apparent. Lacking the precociousness of her elder siblings, Moretta, even in early childhood, appeared more English than Prussian:
“She is the only one of our children who does not speak German;” Vicky explained to Queen Victoria, “she will not say any German words.”
Her cheerfulness endeared her to Vicky, but even so her extreme shyness, particularly among strangers, caused her mother a great deal of concern. Within eighteen months of Moretta’s birth, a fourth son, Waldemar was born and he too, under Vicky’s care was so ‘dear’ and ‘honest’ that he soon became her favourite child.

The holiday in Cannes brought a brief respite to both Vicky and Alice. ‘Living quietly together,’ they had the rare opportunity of sharing memories of their idyllic childhood and confiding in one another their present troubles.
“It does me good…to have Vicky’s stimulating company,” Alice wrote to Louis from Cannes, “and to get right away from the narrow, stifling atmosphere of Darmstadt…Vicky learns and hears so much, and she makes really good progress every year, which I cannot say for myself.”
Vicky, too, began to appreciate that, though Alice’s life seemed so much less complicated than her own, she too had her share of difficulties:
“[Alice’s] life in Germany, though she enjoys more liberty than I, and has her husband more to herself, has its disadvantages and I have always admired the way she has taken them.”
The winter moved on and the arrival of Louis and Fritz on the 19th December brought a happy reunion of both families in time for Christmas. Yet, while the children listened intrigued to their fathers’ accounts of adventures in distant lands, both Alice and Vicky had reason to anticipate their return to Germany with some trepidation. With a heavy heart, Alice set out with her children to the ‘stifling’ atmosphere of Darmstadt, while for Vicky there came a brief respite as she and Fritz broke their journey in Paris. Entertained by the charismatic Emperor Napoleon III, and delighting in the Parisian culture, neither Vicky nor Fritz could have realized that within seven months the Prussian Crown Prince would be leading his troops towards the French capital in the midst of a bitter war.

The Kaiser in the First World War


Throughout the First World War Kaiser Wilhelm seemed to go into a sort of manic-depressive state. One minute he was elated and filled with wild notions ranging from rage and anger (about killing all the Russian prisoners of war) and the next taking to his bed for in utter despair. If 'Willy' were responsible for the war, as was suggested afterwards by those who wanted to bring him to trial for war crimes, he would be a real criminal, but the truth is that he wasn't responsible for it at all. He was a puppet. He called himself the All Powerful, and he played in his uniforms and parades but his generals and war council played him to the full.

I wonder sometimes which would be worse for Willy: to feel himself responsible for all that carnage, which he did not want, or to view himself as insignificant and at the mercy of his ministers. The propaganda of the time portrayed him as a monster but he never actually commanded an army or captained a ship. He played - Nero-like, he fiddled while Rome burned. Poor, poor man - he was just a little boy playing and never realising that those around him were taking his game as reality.

The photos of him during his exile in Holland, show the face of a man filled with sorrow. I guess, for appearance sake, he played his part to the end - his memoirs are filled with untruths (such as what he wrote of Tsar Nicholas in the run-up to the war) - but in his heart, he must have been feeling bewildered beyond belief. He might have liked to have been the monster on the propaganda posters, rather than the poor little boy and sad man he became.

I can't help liking him.

The Loveliest Stories of Love

As St. Valentine's day is nearly upon us, here are just a few of the great romances of the royalties of the recent past.

Queen Victoria and Prince Albert had, undoubtedly, one of the most romantic marriages! She adored him from the moment he arrived in England and, in spite of her youthful petulance, came to appreciate his many, many talents. It was a stormy and passionate relationship - at first, at least! - but in time, the Queen mellowed and learned to appreciate the lovely nobility and brilliance of this most remarkable prince. They sent each other erotic paintings and statues; they shared a deep love of their family and, with Albert, Queen Victoria was anything but the dull prude who appears through the dour statues in most of our cities. Prince Albert's tragic death at only forty-two led to her years in seclusion and the notions of her being a prude but they remain together forever in the British psyche in such things as the "V & A Museum", their memorials and the countless places named after them.


Vicky, Queen Victoria's eldest daughter, married at such an early age, a man whom she adored and who was equally enamored of her. Vicky and Fritz were totally devoted to one another and their tragedy was, yet again, that Fritz died far too soon! Had he lived, the whole course of European history might have been very different.


Franz Ferdinand and Sophie - a doomed love! A mere lady-in-waiting, Sophie was deemed unworthy of a Habsburg Archduke and heir to the throne but Franz Ferdinand was willing to sacrifice everything for her. A man who was seen as hot-tempered and unlikeable, he was devoted to his family and adored his wife. He wrote that the most sensible thing he ever did was to marry the woman he loved. It is a tragedy that they were both murdered on one of their first public appearances together (on their 14th wedding anniversary) but on the other hand, it seems fitting they they left this life side-by-side.


And, of course, another devoted couple who were murdered together - Alix and Nicholas. It is unthinkable that they could have left this world separately. Theirs was a marriage of two souls in harmony and, despite the many tragedies of their life in Russia, nothing ever shook, and nothing will ever shake, their devotion to one another.

Happy St. Valentine's Day!

"Acts of God"

An interesting thought about how our thoughts affect our bodies...

Vicky's husband, Fritz - Emperor Frederick III - spent much of his young life being 'gagged' by his father. Every time he raised an opposing thought, he was silenced. At the same time, Vicky was urging him to speak out. He was in a very difficult position. As the time drew near for him to take up his position as emperor, he was diagnosed with throat cancer.

Vicky felt that she bore the weight of the world on her shoulders. She tried to balance so many things but the strain was so great that she couldn't bear it. Nor could she express it. She suffered greatly, too, over the way her children were raised and how the older ones seemed to reject her. She was diagnosed with breast cancer and spinal cancer.

Alice was never allowed to express her grief at the death of her father as she was too busy caring for her mother and helping to keep 'the firm' running. When her little daughter, May, died, she was compelled to keep that silent, too....she died of diphtheria, which affects the throat.

Serge lived with the horror of what had happened to his father. He also had - I think - some kind of loathing for his body, which was literally obliterated by the bomb that killed him.

There are many, many more examples and the deeper we go into our own thoughts, the more clear it is how we choose to destroy or re-create ourselves....Ho hum...It's a thought which offends many people because we all like to play victim at times. "It wasn't my fault I caught this or that...." It's not a question of 'fault' though, it's more a question of responsibility. Living in the 'image and likeness of God' , our thoughts have tremendous power - far greater than we choose to be aware of, I think. "Act of God" is a something assigned to nasty eventualities - as though a loving creator would be so petulant as to wipe out his/her people! Perhaps 'act of thought' would be more appropriate for many things. "Acts of God" - acting from our highest selves, would surely only mean life and health and freedom.
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